Dear Ms. Mango, 

I don’t understand if people have a jealousy problem, or just really like putting people down. Either way, I have been insulted too many times to put up with it anymore. My only problem is, I don’t know how to stick up for myself. Please help!

Sincerely, 

Upset and Insulted

Dear Upset and Insulted, 

Often people are doing it just for attention. As this happens, step back and realize that what the person, or people are saying is not true, and just out of spite. Letting it bother you not only allows their plan to hurt you succeed, but it really can affect your outlook on yourself. Simply confront them nicely by asking what their intentions are in saying such rude things, and if that doesn’t work, talk to someone who can take care of the situation with more authority. Handling the situation calmly not only defeats their actions, but also keeps you above their level.